{"product_id":"high-conflict-why-we-get-trapped-and-how-we-get-out-paperback","title":"High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out (Paperback)","description":"\u003cp class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhen we are baffled by the insanity of the “other\nside”—in our politics, at work, or at home—it’s because we aren’t seeing how\nthe conflict itself has taken over.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\nThat’s what “high conflict” does. It’s the invisible hand of our time. And it’s\ndifferent from the useful friction of healthy conflict. That’s \u003ci\u003egood \u003c\/i\u003econflict,\nand it’s a necessary force that pushes us to be better people.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\nHigh conflict is what happens when discord distills into a good-versus-evil\nkind of feud, the kind with an \u003ci\u003eus \u003c\/i\u003eand a \u003ci\u003ethem\u003c\/i\u003e. In\nthis state, the brain behaves differently. We feel increasingly certain of our\nown superiority, and everything we do to try to end the conflict, usually makes\nit worse. Eventually, we can start to mimic the behavior of our adversaries,\nharming what we hold most dear.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\nIn this “compulsively readable” (Evan Osnos, National Book Award-winning\nauthor) book, \u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003ebestselling author and\naward-winning journalist Amanda Ripley investigates how good people get\ncaptured by high conflict—and how they break free.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\nOur journey begins in California, where a world-renowned conflict expert\nstruggles to extract himself from a political feud. Then we meet a Chicago gang\nleader who dedicates his life to a vendetta—only to realize, years later, that\nthe story he’d told himself about the conflict was not quite true. Next, we\ntravel to Colombia, to find out whether thousands of people can be nudged out\nof high conflict at scale. Finally, we return to America to see what happens\nwhen a group of liberal Manhattan Jews and conservative Michigan corrections\nofficers choose to stay in each other’s homes in order to understand one another\nbetter, even as they continue to disagree.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\nAll these people, in dramatically different situations, were drawn into high\nconflict by similar forces, including conflict entrepreneurs, humiliation, and\nfalse binaries. But ultimately, all of them found ways to transform high\nconflict into good conflict, the kind that made them better people. They\nrehumanized and recatego­rized their opponents, and they revived curiosity and\nwonder, even as they \u003ci\u003econtinued \u003c\/i\u003eto fight for what they knew was\nright.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\nPeople \u003ci\u003edo \u003c\/i\u003eescape high conflict. Individuals—even entire\ncommunities—can short-circuit the feedback loops of outrage and blame, if they\nwant to. This is an “insightful and enthralling” (\u003ci\u003eThe New York Times Book\nReview) \u003c\/i\u003ebook—and a mind-opening new way to think about conflict that\nwill transform how we move through the world.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eAmanda Ripley\u003c\/b\u003e is the \u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003ebestselling\nauthor of \u003ci\u003eThe Smartest Kids in the World\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eHigh Conflict\u003c\/i\u003e,\nand \u003ci\u003eThe Unthinkable\u003c\/i\u003e. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003eShe writes for \u003ci\u003eThe\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eAtlantic\u003c\/i\u003e,\u003ci\u003e Politico\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eThe\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eWashington\nPost\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eThe\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eThe\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eWall\nStreet Journal\u003c\/i\u003e, among other publications.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"BOOK DEPOT INC.","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":44980273381583,"sku":"9781982128579","price":21.9,"currency_code":"SGD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0574\/5662\/3823\/files\/download_259c5e73-e748-403e-8e78-aa01bb1088d0.jpg?v=1776156588","url":"https:\/\/popular.com.sg\/products\/high-conflict-why-we-get-trapped-and-how-we-get-out-paperback","provider":"Popular Book Company Pte Ltd","version":"1.0","type":"link"}