“This book is a game changer for caregivers of loved ones
with dementia. This book will help millions of families, like hers, like yours,
like mine, like everyone’s. It’s a book for our time.” – Maria Shriver
From Emma Heming Willis, wife of Bruce Willis, a deeply
personal and richly compassionate supportive guide that helps caregivers care
for themselves while they navigate a loved one's dementia.
The day Emma Heming Willis’ husband, Bruce Willis, was
diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia (FTD), all they were given was a
pamphlet and told to check back in a few months. With no hope or direction,
Emma walked out of that doctor’s appointment frozen with fear, confusion and a
sense that her world had just fallen apart.
In fact, it had. Bruce and Emma had their story written,
their future mapped out. Yet all those dreams crumbled with that diagnosis, and
Emma felt alone and more isolated than ever. How would she care for her husband
while parenting their young daughters?
At that devastating time, Emma just wanted someone who'd
been through it to tell her, “This feels terrible right now. Your life is in
shambles. But it’s going to be okay. Here are some things to think about and
put in place so you cannot just survive but thrive.”
With The Unexpected Journey, Emma has written
the book she wishes she’d been handed on the day of Bruce’s diagnosis: a
supportive guide to navigating the complicated, heartbreaking, and
transformative experience that is caregiving for your loved one. Weaving her
personal journey as a care partner with the latest research and insights from
the world’s top dementia, caregiving, and integrative experts she offers the
guidance and wisdom caregivers everywhere so desperately need to hear,
including:
- A
diagnosis isn’t just a label, it’s a starting point. It helps you better
understand your person’s behavior and respond with more clarity and
compassion.
- Taking
care of yourself is not optional; it's mandatory. It will make you a
better care partner. It’s not selfish, it’s self-preserving.
- You
don’t have a choice about being on the dementia caregiving journey. But
you do have a choice in terms of how you approach it and reframe it.
- Caregivers
are human so you aren’t always going to be patient and selfless. You have
challenges and struggle with conflicting emotions and that’s okay.
Ultimately, The Unexpected Journey shows
you how to care for yourself while doing one of the hardest, most heartbreaking
jobs in the world. Because if you don’t take care of yourself, you are not
going to be able to look after anyone else―especially your loved one with
dementia.
For anyone caregiving for a loved one with any form of
dementia, and even for those caregiving for other conditions, The
Unexpected Journey shows that you are not alone. As Emma writes, “I
know that no two caregiving journeys are the same, but we are connected by the
same unchosen thread. It’s not an easy path for you, your loved one or your
family. But I’m here to let you know that you are not alone, and, in time, you
will find your footing, and a way forward."
About the Author
Emma Heming Willis is a mother, step-mother,
wife, advocate, and co-founder of Make Time Wellness, a brand devoted to
women’s brain health. After her husband, Bruce Willis, was diagnosed with
frontotemporal dementia, she became a passionate voice for care partners and
families navigating neurodegenerative disease. Through her storytelling and
advocacy, Emma hopes to help others feel less alone on the caregiving journey.
This is her first book.